Date with a 19 Year Old Boy
- Empress Cynthia
- Jan 15, 2017
- 3 min read
I made a Facebook status post on this way back in January 20, 2016.
Went on a date with a non-religious 19 year old guy (teenager) today. After watching a horror movie with him, I decided to open up to him at the food court about my passionate advocacy for the anti-porn movement, Fight the New Drug, and its cause after he asked about the FTND sticker on my phone..."What is the new drug?" I gave him a brief explanation on what it's about, "You may think it's crazy but it's a recent discovery and cause...", and pointed to my Porn Kills Love tee shirt I was (and still am) wearing. I was surprised by his reaction to this. After he read my shirt, he said it's true and asked me some questions like how I found out about the movement. He even straight up told me he hates porn and that he once watched this documentary called "Hot Girls Wanted". It's about a group of naive girls who were allowing themselves get exploited by the porn industry; he said it's a good documentary yet it's sad. He even shared with me that nowadays, it's not just porn but also the media that heavily sexualizes females + pressures them to act/look a certain way as well it's degrading; on that point, I concluded to him that we live in a "pornified culture". So yeah...I was relieved he and I didn't get into an argument on this as he agreed with every single one of my points on the dark truths of porn.
The only exception was when he said there's one good thing about porn...that porn makes people feel less guilty about their own bodies and more confident revealing them but then I refuted with a point that porn teaches people to sexualize those body parts in which further leads to people sexually objectifying others. Plus, porn is often filled with artificial bodies (including the fact that there are porn actors who get surgery for penis enlargements) which distorts people's physical expectations. He realized this and agreed.
Was surprised he totally supports the cause I'm fighting for...definitely not a response I was expecting. Not to mention...he's a (cute a-hem) gentleman who knows how to treat a lady and is seemingly mature for a 19 year old...and wise indeed. Mind blown.
-faith in humanity increases-
Update: Unfortunately, I found out he lacks respect and conscience for the elderly. He and I got into a fight over this and that broke our friendship. Oh well, the two dates with him was fun while it lasted. He called me "Kitty Cat Meow Meow Face" and I called him "Mr. Cuddlez". His background heritage is half-Irish half-Norwegian (mom is Irish, dad is Norwegian), which I think is interesting. Our first date involved watching a horror movie that's based on a real forest which has many suicides within Japan, "The Forest". We also had a blast reading out loud together a book that consists of Edgar Allan Poe's literature work while listening to spooky music in the background, playing Little Big Planet on his PS3, and watching horror films such as "R.L Stine's The Haunting Hour" and "Supernatural", which I introduced to him (I have a rather strong hidden interest for horror and dark themes.). Those were fun times but anyhow, he was one of the first people I've ever spoken about my anti-porn activism with in person.