Kelly's testimony

Yeah, like, ugh. My husband had such a problem with porn. I really don't know if he was a porn addict because he was a drug addict, so, all the focus was on THAT. But it destroyed me emotionally, and lord knows how many of his "problems" with sex were because of porn or because of the drugs (probably both), but, that's when I became anti-porn.

At first it was a resentment-type thing: I wanted to be more like them so he would find me interesting (hence the homemade porn), but that didn't work (shocking!!!) and eventually it came to the point where we didn't have sex but he had porn everywhere - especially on his phone.

When I came to the anti-porn view was when I was looking in his phone and there were just pictures of breasts and vulvas everywhere. Not the women, just their "sex parts". And I was so disgusted at how DEHUMANIZING that was. Like, he wasn't even interested in the woman, just her "sex parts". And then I realized: that's what porn it. Dehumanizing. It reduces women literally to three holes in which to place dick (or other objects). And then I became anti-porn.

But all that time spent knowing he'd rather look at little tiny pictures of vulvas and breasts on his phone rather than be with an actual, living, breathing woman, took its toll on me. Men just have no idea, and don't care. He didn't.